I Make Bone, What’s Your Superpower?

When I first fell and injured my leg/ankle 7+ weeks ago, I assumed that my life would remain the same albeit not being able to walk for a few months.

I pictured myself sitting at my laptop writing blog post after blog post during my recuperation. I have several folders, as well as scraps of paper, containing scribbled ideas for all sorts of posts. Posts on mothering young children, posts on mothering growing children, posts on mothering teens, and posts on empty nesting. Additionally I have notes on being a daughter as well as notes about being a woman in today’s world. In fact, in my post Holiday Calamity: The Good, the Bad and the Just Plain Weird there were comments from readers consoling me that I could use my recovery time to write. And in The Road to Recovery I wrote about how productive I had been, showing that I wasn’t just sitting around. But the fact of the matter is that I am just sitting around.

And I am mostly sitting around on my couch and not at my writing desk. While my laptop can move to the couch, my energy levels are just not thinking and writing and editing and editing and editing.

I am a productive person. I don’t like just sitting around. I love being active: walking, hiking, yoga. But at this point, some days I barely have enough energy to get dressed and sit up. Now I did have a bad break and a serious injury that required a three hour surgery. And in addition they discovered I am anemic. But I never imagined that I would be so wiped out. And then I recently learned why.

It takes a lot of energy to grow bones! And that is what I am doing. So while it may look like I am just sitting, and it may feel like I am just sitting, the fact is my body is hard at work repairing and growing my bones.

When I think back to my kids, who seemed to go through phases when they were bumps on a log, I now realize that they were exhausted because they were growing bones! And I am exhausted from growing new bones. Sure I now have a metal plate, with pins and screws in my leg, holding pieces together, but the fact is my body is spending a tremendous amount of energy to grow new bones. And this is why I am tired a lot right now. This is also why I have not been able to write more, even though I want to.

How we mother our children, our friends and ourselves matter. And this is what my blog is about. And right now I am mothering myself by not giving myself a hard time for not using these 7 weeks to write more. I am being way more productive by sitting on my couch, stitching or reading or calling a friend because my body is hard at work growing bone. In fact I am thinking of getting a t-shirt that reads:

I Make Bone, What’s Your Superpower?

What do you think?



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12 thoughts on “I Make Bone, What’s Your Superpower?

  1. Karen

    You didn’t factory in the “age” part…. not only are you growing bones, but it must take longer and more work at this point in our lives. My heart goes out to you.

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    1. Heidi BK Sloss Post author

      Thank you for reminding me that I am getting older 😉 But seriously thank you for sending your husband out to take care of me last month–that was the best gift ever!

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  2. Dawn

    In addition to the amazing fact that you are actually rebuilding bone, I love the reminder that our kids were doing the same thing– when I was telling them to get moving! It did occasionally occur to me that my son had grown 3 inches… that’s gotta take some energy, but I don’t think I was as understanding as I could have been… thanks for that reminder.

    Hope you find some balance, Heidi… some clarity in healing and feeling productive. You’ll be back in the game in no time!

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    1. AmazingSusan

      I remember my Mom stomping around the house when I was a teen and telling me to get out of bed LOL – nowadays I think it’s everyday wisdom that teens need more sleep.

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      1. Heidi BK Sloss Post author

        Yes, it is accepted wisdom BUT teens are still expected at school at early hours and if your kid is involved with a choir or debate or newspaper, sometimes even before that!

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    2. Heidi BK Sloss Post author

      Thank you Dawn, appreciate the well wishes. Times of growth seem to take more energy out of us than we realize. It is especially hard to live in a Type A environment (Silicon Valley) and in my own home (my husband loves his work so much he does it daily) to let myself off the hook. Luckily I have found some entertaining books and am busy stitching up a project that my daughter started a few years ago. So I am keeping myself busy, but my ‘activities’ are way less taxing.

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  3. Merrilyn Heazlewood

    What a great Blog Heidi. As you are finding rest is very necessary. Just let it all take time and as Karen said, dont forget the age factor .
    We will all be waiting for you future Blog’s when you have the energy, but for now just take time and ‘mother yourself’. Lol from Tassie

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  4. AmazingSusan

    I think periods of “rest,” restoration and consolidation are as important to growth as periods of active growth are.

    And when one has had a event that “fractures” one’s life in one way or another it’s important to recuperate and re-energize.

    Your post is the second one today that brought me back to a poem I wrote last year after losing a court case in which I tried to get control of my Mom’s care from my brother. Here’s the poem:

    http://amazingsusan.com/2014/02/07/dead-to-the-world-2/

    My super power is awareness <3

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    1. Heidi BK Sloss Post author

      Love your super power! It is heartbreaking when siblings can not agree on the care of an aging parent. Sorry you are going through that–you don’t deserve it!

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  5. Dinner Diva

    Your article made me think of my recent foot injury where I learned I have osteoporosis! I had no idea! All I knew is that I had a foot massage one hour and the next hour I had a swollen and bruised foot which turned out to be a broken foot! In Thailand, having a foot massage is very commonplace and until
    The injury I had one once a week for the better part of 9 months. So a walking boot turned out to be a life saver as I was in the middle of culinary school and had classes 4 days a week. The road to recovery is a slow one and I appreciate your perspective. I never thought of “growing bones” as anything special until now. I know for certain the body adapts and eventually heals.

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    1. Heidi BK Sloss Post author

      The body can absolutely heal, if we give ourselves time and patience to go through the process. Hope you can find time to give yourself over to healing as you move through your classes!

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