Birth Announcement

As I wrote in What’s in a Name, I am changing my blog’s name because the current name no longer reflects what I am writing and thinking about these days. I still love the name, The Magic of Mothering, and I still love being a mother, but as my kids have grown and flown, so too has my focus.

Even after my first blog post, I had no Clue, I started hearing from readers who were not mothers and never going to be mothers;  yet these readers found inspiration in my writing.  So to make my blog more inclusive, accurate and in line with my life’s focus, it is time to change my blog’s name.

And as we are celebrating the my son’s 25th birthday ago this week, the timing is perfect. His birth was a life changing event with profound repercussions on me as a woman. His birth has led me to new friends, new thoughts, new images of myself, new career pathways and most of all to a much more open and feminine me. And now, 25 years later, I am giving birth to myself, this time to the post-mothering me.

My first thoughts about a blog name change was to go with the empty nest theme—a large growing demographic that I know intimately for I am the empty nester stereotype. When we were getting ready to send our youngest off to university I worried about what life for me, post-mothering, would be like. I worried about my marriage, my friendships and of course my relationships with my kids. I wasn’t a classic helicopter mom, but my life was organized around my kids’ for so long that I had forgotten how it was to be me in the world, without my kids on a daily basis.

Since that time, I have discovered that the empty nest is a great place as well as a wonderful state of mind. I loved the child raising years, even with the mess and chaos and bone-crushing exhaustion. It was a good adventure for me, but now I am ready for new ones. And the empty nest name ideas I liked were all taken.

So I got to thinking about personality traits, such as my enthusiastic approach to life. I am a leaper, not a looker. I have frequently jumped into situations, careers and relationships with my whole heart, only to realize later that it didn’t match up with my initial enthusiasm and excitement. But as I have gotten older (and hopefully a bit wiser) I realize that my enthusiasm for a shiny new projects, relationships and activities isn’t always a virtue. Slowing down has brought many positive thoughts, feelings and experiences to my life.

Which led me to think about reoccurring themes in my life (pre, during and post kids). And the one that kept coming to me was my intense drive to live a full, honest and authentic life: a life with no regrets, no bullshit, a life that reflects joy and enthusiasm as well as reflection and enlightenment. And so the new name of my blog is simply, The Art of Living Fully.

This name reflects my desire to experience and write about the rich moments of life. These are the moments of solitude as well as connection; moments of taking great big juicy bites out of life as well as days on my balcony, watching the clouds roll by; moments of travel and moments at home; moments spent hiking, walking, reading, stitching, creating and of course, moments on the yoga mat.

Living is an art, not a science. My goal is to live authentically, embracing life as it comes to me while seeking out opportunities for growth and joy and peace and love and connection. This is both a spiritual and yogic practice for me. So I hope that you continue to read and comment and share my posts as I explore the Art of Living Fully.

As a blogger, I enjoy sharing my ideas and thoughts with people, and I get a special thrill when someone leaves a comment. When you share my posts on social media sites, I jump up and down doing a happy dance. So thank you!

8 thoughts on “Birth Announcement

  1. Alicia S

    Yay! Happy Birthday! I love the new name and I love the line “living is an art, not a science”! I’ve always loved Art…Science not so much, so this should be fun! As a new fan I will definitely continue to follow, read and comment and wish you continued success and happiness!

    1. Heidi BK Sloss Post author

      Thank you Alicia! I struggled over the name for a while, knowing that I needed to find something that fit me and my life better and this one feels right. Describing it was easy–a good sign I guess!

    2. Dinner Diva

      Love your new focus, Heidi! Keep the articles coming. Yes, Becoming an “empty nester” can be a little unsettling at first. Like you said, it may take some time to adjust to your new surroundings. I found my inspiration in Culinary school, in a new city and a new country. Athough many of the students are my daughter’s age, meaning I’m one of the oldest in the classes, I wouldn’t trade the experience. A year ago I had no idea this was even a possibility!

      1. Heidi BK Sloss Post author

        Love reading about your new adventures in culinary school in Thailand! I know what you mean about being one of the oldest in your classes. We are some of the oldest in our new neighborhood! It is funny and fun at the same time. Although I look forward to when other empty nesters also decide to relocate to the city post kids. I hope we are on the forefront of a trend!

  2. Lorrie Goldin

    How wonderful to reinvent yourself while remaining true to your core self all the way through! I, too, have been focused on the empty nest and have come to realize how bountiful it is–not empty at all, in fact. I think it’s wise to expand beyond that concept, as even the term “empty nest” still ties one to the active role of parenting from which one has been forced to retire. Empty nest essays were the core of my writing life, until one day I realized that I was no longer needing to write them quite so much (having said that, I was just working on one today). On to the big wide world, for our kids and for ourselves!

    1. Heidi BK Sloss Post author

      You are so right, there is a lot more to me and the world than my empty nest status, even though my “mothering” career/instincts/time colors my life, it no longer defines it. And while I have a ton of ideas for writing about my empty nest status, I also have a daughter who values her privacy and does not like to be part of my blog. So I focus on other parts of my life and try to avoid stepping on that third rail of our relationship. FYI you might not realize that I first came across your blog while watching to LTYM videos after you were in the SF show and i loved your piece. It was funny and poignant at the same time!


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