Last summer I met Melisa Wells at the San Jose BlogHer 14 conference. Her blog, Suburban Scrawl is one that I like to read; she is a witty writer. Recently she posted a piece that I found fun: 50 Questions. So here is my version: 45 Questions, Just for Fun.
1. What are you wearing?
A sundress from Fresh Produce. I bought it a few years ago and now have three different versions of the same dress. They are all cotton and comfy and perfect for the heat wave we are having in northern California.
2. Ever been in love?
Yes, lots of time. Last major time with a man was with my husband of 25+ years. Since then I have fallen in love with each of my kids when they were born.
3. Ever had a terrible break up?
Yes, many with guys before marriage; and several sad friendship breakups with women friends over the years. Some dramatic, some just drifting away.
4. How tall are you?
5’9” after a chiropractic adjustment.
5. How much do you weigh?
55 lbs less than I did on my 50th birthday!
6. Any tattoos?
7. Any piercings?
Yes, both ears, originally when I was 13 for my birthday. I then added two more when I was 16 or 17, but the later ones closed up years ago.
8. OTP (one true pair, favorite fictional couple)
I am a sucker for love stories and sappy movies. I love watching couples who don’t have a clue at the beginning and then grow, through learning about themselves, to understand their need and capacity for loving. Like Monica and Chandler in Friends or any of Sandra Bullock’s or Hugh Grant’s characters in their romantic comedies.
9. Favorite show?
I have a VERY hard time with choosing a favorite anything. The minute I am asked my brain freezes up. I have watched every episode of Friends at least 4 times. My husband and I watch Parenthood and Scandal. I am also up to date on Downtown Abbey and wish they had shot more of Doc Martin.
10. Favorite band(s)?
I listen to classic rock radio stations and turn on jazz stations when we entertain. I also have a weakness for gospel music. In the car I mostly listen to the news stations and NPR.
11. Something you miss:
My kids, my family and friends who no longer live nearby. I also miss feeling connected to a community.
12. Favorite song:
I love listening to lots and lots of Broadway show tunes and 70s women’s music. But picking a favorite is too hard for me!
13. How old are you?
Turning 54 on October 22
14. Zodiac sign?
Double Libra with a moon in Scorpio
15. Quality you look for in a partner?
I chose a man who is intelligent (picked the smartest man I knew with whom to have kids), great looking (he still rocks my world), can handle my intensity and has a great sense of humor (check on both!).
16. Favorite quote?
My all time favorite is: “Life is too short for this shit.” And: “No regrets!”
17. Favorite actor?
Really can’t do a favorite for this one. Not how I think. See my thoughts on favorities above.
18. Favorite color?
I love teal and wear it a lot. I also stitch a lot with teal and purple and pink.
19. Loud music or soft?
Question makes me feel old. If I like the song, then very, very, very loud.
20. Where do you go when you’re sad?
Home to my stitching or out to the yoga studio. Sometimes a long walk amongst old trees helps too.
21. How long does it take you to shower?
About ten minutes.
22. How long does it take you to get ready in the morning?
Depends on what I am getting ready for, the other day I was able to roll out of bed and be out of the house in less than 20 minutes.
23. Ever been in a physical fight?
Not really. But in 5th grade I told a boy to shut up (he was getting us all in trouble) and he punched me in the stomach.
24. Turn on?
25. Turn off?
Cruelty and prejudice.
26. The reason I started blogging?
I started blogging to connect with other people. There are tons of women writing their hearts out. Reading and commenting on their blogs is a great way to connect. I get a real thrill every time someone leaves a comment on my blog. Someday I might use my ramblings to write another book. At the end of the month I will be meeting up with several women friends for the first time. One I met through her blog and the other two through an online parents’ page for Syracuse University.
Losing my kids, wasting my time, missing out on meaningful relationships.
28. Last thing that made you cry?
A movie we watched the other night.
29. Last time you said you loved someone?
I said it to my husband when we hung up the phone after talking. I say it to my husband, kids and both parents every time we hang up.
30. Meaning behind the name of your blog?
I came up with the Magic of Mothering because when we mother ourselves or our friends or our kids in giving and loving ways it can produce real magic. A little over a year ago, my son told me that I should help other women become better mothers because he appreciated all that I did for him growing up. These words were magic to my ears!
31. Last book you read?
I read at least a book a week. This past month I have read: The Burgess Boys by Elizabeth Strout, An Abundance of Katherines and Paper Towns by John Green all of which I highly recommend. I also finished just finished Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain which I thoroughly enjoyed and I See You Made an Effort: Compliments, Indignities and Survival Stories from the Edge of 50 by Annabelle Gurwich, which didn’t live up to its title.
32. Book you are currently reading?
Half of a Yellow Sun by Chimamanda Ngozi Adiche
33. Last show you watched:
The news. I am a news junkie. CNN, Headline news, local news, bring it on!
34. Last person you talked to?
My husband, on the phone.
35. The relationship between you and the person you just texted?
My son’s girlfriend, Gabby. We are going over to their house for dinner tonight and I was just checking in.
36. Favorite food?
37. Place you want to visit?
Anywhere in Spain. And Machu Picchu. And I would go back to Australia, we had a great time living there earlier this year. See the Australia button on my blog for posts on our travels there.
38. Last place you were:
Since getting back from Australia this summer I have been to: Washington, DC, Princeton, NJ and Carmel, CA.
39. Do you have a crush?
Yes, on my husband.
40. Last time you kissed someone?
My husband, when he got home from work. We kiss hello everytime.
41. Last time you were insulted:
By a family member who assumed that I was insensitive to her problems.
42. Favorite flavor of sweet?
Dark chocolate. Is there anything else?
43. What instruments do you play?
Nothing anymore, although I can peck out a tune on a piano is I have to.
44. Favorite piece of jewelry?
My wedding rings.
45. Any regrets:
Plenty of small ones: yelling at my kids too much, losing my temper with my husband, not having made enough time to hang out with friends over the years. I also have some bigger ones: not having the harder conversations with my mother and not being the best mother for my daughter. I wish I had found a mother-daughter yoga class for the two of us when she asked for one 10 years ago.
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